Solicitation

So internet, since we're back on speaking terms I feel it imperative to tell you the following story:


There is this girl I know, whom got married at a very young age of 21 after only knowing her fiancee for less than 6 months. There were many signs this marriage was doomed from the beginning including, but not limited to, having to drag him to the jewlery store when he preferred to play video games; paying for her own engagement ring; and sleeping with his best friend. (Trust me, there is a reason that I'm throwing out this girl's business to you).

She get married, and is divorced by the ripe old age of 25. She gets over being divorced and gets engaged again.

Before the second marriage can take place, she breaks off the engagement and sends out a mass e-mail asking all of her friends and family to support her in her difficult time.

Not 2 weeks later I get another e-mail asking if I'll be at the reception on such and such a date.

Now I've never gotten a direct story from this person about why the engagement ended, but I've inquired as to what she's told other people and it was primarily about stipulations he made in regards to what he thought she should weigh before he would marry her.

The guy is clearly an ass. You don't get back engaged to him! So I politely wrote her back and said, "I thought you called off the engagement????"

I get an e-mail back saying that she did, but she has since picked up a new fiancee in the guy that was supposed to DJ her wedding.

WTF?

She sends me the link to her wedding website.

Shocker, she's known the guy less than 6 months, and has been dating him for a few weeks!

I write her back and say, "You know, this is what movies are made of, so I know you know this is crazy? Right? Why the rush to get married?"

Well she writes back, "Why not? What do you think people thought when you left for NC?"

My natural response is that I don't really care. I did it for me, not for anyone else. But then that would be her point as well and it's different. I was moving out on my own, and stepping out into the world. But I also openly admitted that I moved to NC for a boy. And I'm so glad then when the honeymoon period wore off I still had a deep and profound love and respect for said boy. But what if I hadn't and had jumped in with both feet, marrying him? Then breaking up becomes a huge deal, and very expensive.

My feeling is that if love is real then there's nothing it cannot withstand. And if that's true, then why the rush?

It has also been my personal experience that when people get engaged very quickly it's usually because either a) they're idiots, or b) one person feels like it's a guarantee--no matter how short--that they'll hold onto the newness, the happiness, and/or a person that they wouldn't otherwise be able to hold on to.

I explained all of this to her (and more), and then asked again, "What happens when the honeymoon period ends?"

She wrote me back, but I didn't read it. Why? Because she's one of these people that LOVES drama. And I'm sure when the dust settles with all of this she'll find another way to kick up the dust again. So verbally sparring with her is pointless.

And the moral of the story is: If you don't want people to ruin your perfect bubble world, stop putting your shit out there to people whom didn't ask you about, or you're soliciting both what you want to hear about yourself, and what you don't.